A marriage is an attachment relationship for adults. As in childhood with one’s primary caregiver, attachment is a relationship bond to a thoroughly supportive other. Continue reading
6 Attitude Rules for Co-Parenting
There are many practical rules for healthy co-parenting, largely focused on consistency and cooperation. Underneath the practicalities is the basic attitude towards the co-parent. Here are six firm rules that demonstrate the right disposition. Never, ever, criticize your co-parent in front of your children. Children need to idealize their parents in the early years and … Continue reading
The Single Life – An Alternative Path
I have said that consummate love in a monogamous, lifelong partnership is my life’s greatest goal. Marriage is the school of love. By working at union with this one person, I am practicing and growing towards union with One and All. What about the single life? How and where does the un-paired person seek union, … Continue reading
Convincing Employees to Quit
If you have been practicing personal management, you know your direct reports on a personal level. You have a good sense of their strengths, their interpersonal style, their values and priorities. You even have some idea about what’s going on in the rest of their lives – the larger context of their work performances. Thus, when … Continue reading
Employee Retention? Or Detention?
Part of the manager’s job description is to retain the (better part of the) staff. Long-term staff accrue intimacy with the organization’s unique products and services; they are fluent in the local culture and know how to get things done. Naturally, the stars and even the solid players on the team are highly valued, especially … Continue reading
Any Executive Can Give a Good Speech
First comes the shock, plus sadness or relief, that the old leader is stepping down (to “focus on other pursuits” or “spend more time with family”) and a new name is being installed. Then comes the requisite staff or all-hands meeting. You listen to a polished presentation – encouraging, opportune, fresh, articulate – and you … Continue reading
Seeking Union 